Crush on my teammate is affecting my productivity
I have a female coworker of mine with whom I have become very good friends with. We talk a lot during office hours. I feel very happy around her and i am able to express myself the most in front of her. I keep thinking about her all the time, even when i am at home, during weekends. However i feel that she only thinks of me as a friend and nothing more. This is based on signals i picked up during various instances, conversations we had. This thing breaks my heart. Also since I dont have a friend group as such to make weekend plans with, i mostly keep thinking about this during weekends sitting at home and this shit has been hurting me a lot. Seeing my other friends insta stories is a final bullet which further pushes me into depression. Sometimes i just feel like being open about this in front of her but then this could take a very bad turn if things dont work out in a happy way. I also cannot completely avoid her since we are in the same team and same project.
Can someone please help with how to deal with this?
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Either propose or stop the friendship. No point suffering like this. Most likely u'll be rejected based on your comments but it'll atleast clear your mind
Either rizz her up or shut up bro. Stop daydreaming.
This is completely fine. There are two things. One is clear things out. Instead of overthinking, just ask her out.But if you have to be open that things can go in a different direction. Also do not be desperate, that's the killer. Second thing is focus more on your passion (not work related ).Lastly talk to more girls. (This boosts your inner confidence if you are an introvert)
This^, also uninstall Instagram. Best therapy ever. Peace of mind is better than yoga.
Don’t shit where you eat, cause this sounds like attraction to me. If you have fallen for her that’s a different case, but that’s not the point here.
I don’t know how to make friends, cause it happens unknowingly.
I might be wrong but I think, she might be one of the few female friends you have, and this might be one of the reason for your attraction/affection towards her.
More over lack of friends group is keeping you unoccupied.
I suggest you to
Uninstall instagram
Engage in sports or gym or
Join some coaching classes(ex:- arts, dance, language learning, martial arts etc..)
Keep yourself occupied and get to know about yourself
You are in my dream company bro
Just discuss your feelings with her. If she doesn't respond favourably, be mature about it and continue being yourself and don't break her trust or make things awkward. If it is meant to be then all will work out eventually. You might think it's easy for me to give this advice. But I've been there - expressed my feelings and didn't get a favourable response initially. I didn't break her trust and continued to be the person she looks up to and after three years, we got married. So cheer up. 🙂
When you're not in office working, Keep yourself busy by -
- Hitting the gym/Going for runs
- Hanging out with friends (without alcohol at this time)
- Speaking to parents more
- Speaking to your college buds more
- Trying a new hobby
Keep yourself busy so that you don't have time to think about her. And lastly get out of Instagram. That's the worst platform you can be at this point in time.
Don't fall into the trap bro...she will leave you for someone else... Focus on yourself... prioritise yourself first....