Constantly friendzoned at 29. What the fuck am I doing wrong? :(

Don't hook up unless he is your husband. Since it's too far fetched, do it when it turns out into a committed relationship. Guys leave once it's done. They zone women into different categories. You should know all these things based on the experience you got. Please be careful and don't hurt yourself

No guys wants to marry a girl whos cool with step 5. Period .

No guy would want cool girl to be his Gf or Wife. Decent and honest guy would always look for simplicity in girl.

Looking at your post it only shows how desperate you are for relationship. You are frustrated because some guys rejected you.
More you try ways to impress them more you will get rejections. You should instead be yourself because you only need to find 1 partner in life(I suppose!)

Interested in a genuine connection, DM

Guys from dating apps have too many options. I'm assuming the guys you're swiping on is the top 10% of the guys. They have no need to settle when they can do this with every girl. Try finding someone you like irl.

Wtf even A girl puts up a list of man she wants and men be like "What do you bring to the table?" When a girl shares What she brings to table, men be like "No we don't want that"

And then they will say Men are simple Will cry why are we single 😒 Oh that rhymed 😂

Ma'am, Please stop hooking up thus easily. And study oxytocin bonding. DM for more non-conventional advice if you like.

sincerely, Another woman

The comments feel lengthier than the post, damn

Appreciate you sharing your experience. It’s not easy, and looking at some of the comments tells you why.

First things first, I don’t know you. You may or may not have withheld some details while writing this - intentionally or unintentionally. But basis what you have mentioned, you seem like a cool person.

A few things about you that stood out to me are:

• You can articulate your thoughts well
• You’re open to the idea that you’re doing something wrong, and willing to learn
• You’re independent and sorted on the basics

Now as for why guys might not want to commit to a relationship with someone like you:

• Most people don’t know what they want out of a relationship. This is especially true on dating apps. It’s often “go with the flow”, “if we vibe, we vibe”. If you feel like someone who has clear intentions, it can actually throw people off.
• Many guys get insecure if they feel like you’d be just fine without them. It’s been wired into our minds growing up that we have to be protectors and providers. But if someone doesn’t really need either? What do you do?
• It’s sadly also the case that if you’re too forward and friendly, some guys will lose interest. There’s a thrill of the chase. Mind games suck, but some people really need them. These may or may not be your TG.
• For some guys, it really is just about hooking up. Once that’s done, the thrill of the unknown is gone. They will have already moved on to their next pursuit.

What I can suggest you do:

• Keep a bigger filter on who you match with. Add in details on your dating profile that will turn off the casual/unsure audience. Maybe even throw in something divisive/controversial just for fun.
• Take things slow while dating; if it’s meant to be forever, a few extra weeks here or there won’t matter.
• Be kind to yourself. Some people luck out by running into their partners through the normal course of life - college, workplace etc. You’re in a boat where you have to find your partner in a vast ocean. So showing up often, trying, and being patient is very important.

And above everything else, don’t forget to love yourself and appreciate your own worth. Only then will someone else be able to do that for you.

All the best! :)