Confused Groom?
So I have a friend/colleague who is looking and meeting prospective brides to marry. I will share three anecdotes with you guys. I was not sure as to what advice should I give him maybe because my advice would be harsh. Lets call him A. Just some background on A. He smokes regularly, rarely drinks.
First Girl: After initial pleasantries, she straight up told him that she has smoked and drunk everything available to her and had some past as well. But she is changed gal now and just wanted A to know her past. According to A, they gelled well. But A didn’t go ahead with her, his opinion being how can he marry a girl with such past and can’t trust her.
Second Girl: So this girl had good background coming from a good family. A didnt like her much but according to him she was a decent girl. The girl let him know after two meets that she is ready for marriage. A stepped back, his reason being who agrees to marriage after just two meetings.
Third Girl: This girl as per A was a very sidhi sadhi ladki who has not tried anything in life and a bit old school for A. So he didnt like her too.
He has met others but has not gone ahead yet. I shared these three because these lie across the spectrum of the type of people you will meet. So everytime I meet him, he is like duniya mai dhang ki single ladkiyan hai hi nhi. But I mean other than the two extreme ends and someone in the middle he has no chance of meeting exactly the girl he ‘would’ like
Bro want beautiful girl with hot figure, no past, old school but act modern, naughty only with him, quiet and respectful in front of parents.
Such girls exist only in sooraj barjatya's movies.
So A doesnt like :
- seedi saadhi girls
- Gurls who agree for marriage early (rather than wasting time of herself and others)
- Gurls who drink and have past (everyone has past. Life is a wheel and it moves. No one lives under a rock.)
Conclusion: A will remain single 🥱
I would say ur A person doesn't know what he wants....
First Gal - who doesn't have a past these days most of the gal must have some, for sure A ka bhi hoga. Second Gal - at least she knows what she wants unlike A. Third Gal - bhai fir A ko cahiye kya😅.
I would say A is just a person who had a commitment issue.....or say afraid of commitments.
Am starting to feel the story has a twist. What if A is a girl?. The reason for rejections seems very similar to what women say to reject a prospective groom.
Any guy who rejected the third option is a fool. If at all this story is true.
It's almost like he wants to build a robot for himself with all the qualities
I see that 1. A is judgemental.. the first girl had past...oh ok... What about you Mr. A? Should someone reject you for the same reason if you had a girlfriend in high school or college?
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A seems to be afraid of commitments. He just wants to date a woman until he is too deep into her personal things and only then he can decide to either dump her or marry her. Let me tell you, Girls never let their guard down just because they like someone. They need to be sure.. just like how you are not sure.
Good luck opening up to a girl. -
Good for the third girl. Mr. A would want a girl to be entertaining and perhaps tiny bit realistic. The third girl is not the one.
As far as I know, he hasnt been in any relationship
Second is good option. First is terrible
