FuzzyDumpling

Choices for the crappy life

I know gv isn't pych therapy. Aahh but still who cares?

You know what it means to be a middle class Indian family girl? It means you can't be ambitious, you have to be married by 25 and be pregnant by 30 and for God sakes you can't have a divorce even if your Husband is half gay and has been facing erectile dysfunctions for years and doesn't have interest in sex! I thought of suicide and was almost about to cut my wrists when I thought of my Parents.

But still if you open up to your Parents they would say shut your trap and be supportive. But still I flew away from my Husband and got a divorce.

Half the time I wish I were born as a boy or never at all or had cut myself or had opted for foreign education even if I am the only child caring for my parents.

I know life sucks most of the time. I know it's ok to divorce a guy with mommy issues. Is it ok to come back to your own home and know you don't have any space or room for yourself, where you have grown up? Is it ok to come back home and be lonely? Is it ok to come back home and still can't sleep and need sleeping pills even if it's only for a few months as you can't bear to see the disappointment in their eyes?

I know life isn't fair. But if Mother or Parents aren't supportive of their only child, then hell yeah, I don't care too... But it's easy to say.. Very hard to implement...

So for all men or women who are facing such issues... Just learn that sometimes people even if it's your family don't understand your problems "Ignorance is bliss!" And yes be selfish... People will talk trash no matter how much you care...

Enjoy your life! Happy Dussehra! And let's hope next year we all will find our goals in our life! 😊

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FluffyHamster

Deloitte7mo

In a similar situation but with a kid. I am wrecked and tried suicide couple of times.He somehow convinces me he will change and treats me like a doormat. Absolutely loves his kid and hates me. Pls suggest anything tht helped you

FuzzyDumpling

Accenture7mo

I understand your position completely. No matter how much you care and support these people take advantage of our weaknesses. My ex is enjoying his stay in a flat for which I had paid. While I am staying away, working away from his state afraid of his and his family's abuse.

FluffyHamster

Deloitte7mo

I am also sick of his parents abuse. They put me in depression. I cant work more than 1 year now, I feel so mentally drained. I just need a break from everything. But I need to finance my kids education.

WobblyCupcake

Stealth7mo

What's "half gay" now?

FuzzyDumpling

Accenture7mo

Hmm... You seen the acting people acting gay in movies??. So he walks like a gay only with his hands straight down... Not manly nor girly... So half gay... No offence to any community.. but sometimes I feel he is in denial that he is gay.. that's all..

PrancingCupcake

PayTM7mo

Why not start a new life in a new city away from your parents/family when they don’t care about you? You must be financially independent if you’re working in Accenture. Sometimes parents don’t value their children untill they face a situation where they need you. So wait for the right time instead of going to the depression

FuzzyDumpling

Accenture7mo

Already have. Just back for paper work and holidays.

DizzyPretzel

Amazon7mo

I thought life as a woman would be much simpler with the gender biased laws in support. Can't you get alimony and some property from him as compensation?

FuzzyDumpling

Accenture7mo

There are lot of cases in court for divorce for which one of the parties can give an exclusive amount of reasons not to appear. If me or any other girl who is being abused asks for such they play dirty and keep you hanging until you go for mutual divorce. The process itself is mental harassment. The Indian judiciary system is very poor. It works only for the rich...

SnoozyJellybean

Stealth7mo

Weak independent woman

BouncyTaco

Stealth7mo

Randomly judgemental. Be kind man.

GigglyPickle

Stealth7mo

So sorry to hear about this. Have you considered therapy?

FuzzyDumpling

Accenture7mo

I went to therapy and then was strong enough to stand against my family to opt for divorce.

Now the only thing remaining is my Parents. I had respected them, always worshipped them. I used to keep them above God. I didn't opt for foreign education just because I didn't want to leave them alone. Now I regret all of this...

I have moved forward now.. but still I can't bear to see their disappointment screaming within the walls... So the home where I had grown up now feels only like brick and walls.. So I correct all the paperwork and other things I need temporary medication to keep myself sane for the time being..

Next year I will maintain my distance.. May be get married to a good guy whom am dating.. May be away from this state... Away from this ridiculous toxic society and Parents.

WigglyBanana

Stealth7mo

I'm really sorry that you're facing all of this Society can be a bitch at times

But if fitting into 'your society' is coming at the cost of cutting yourself/needing sleeping pills... it's time to make a radical shift. You have one life, you should consider moving base and restarting from scratch.

FuzzyDumpling

Accenture7mo

I already have taken steps... Next year will bring positive changes I hope... Fingers crossed..

SparklyBiscuit

Stealth7mo

Lol post

BouncyTaco

Stealth7mo

Then you don't read. Why pass judgement

FloatingUnicorn

Stealth7mo

Indian and Indian society is a vishwaguru after all...I know being born in india as a female ,and if ur from tier 3 ,4 village or something ,then it's done for you,it's worst than being a boy in india , not that being boy is also useless if u can earn but atleast boys can runaway and say fukkyaallll .

ZestyMuffin

Stealth7mo

Good luck. Enjoy your life. 😊

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