Caring or Simping?
I'm in mid 20s. When I think about marriage, I naturally imagine taking care of my future partner in small ways. But when I talk about that to friends or cousins, they call it ‘simp behavior.’ Where’s the real line between being genuinely caring and being a simp.
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Your friends sound like toxic idiots. Don't listen to them
I mean..they kind of are very aware of everything.. when to ignore.. when to talk.. how much to talk.. to keep the things going.. but I kind of just go by the flow .. not that "chipku" type but it's like I just become new normal for them and end up being monotonous. This I'm telling from what I have faced with my used to be female friends...
Adding on top other things I'll be more or less same for my gonna be girl.. this makes even me think that I'm gonna be unwillingly boring for her also because I don't know this art of context aware talking and adaptive behaviour. From my side I will be doing my best but at some point some thought says you may be taken for granted, not manifesting though just one of many thoughts.
Bro, you're overthinking it too much in advance. At first, just try being your normal self (what your friends are calling "simp"), and see how things go.
If things don't go well, then try to rethink your strategy and take advice from your friends.
But there's a good chance that things work out well given your natural approach, and then you don't have to think or worry about all these manipulative or toxic behaviors
There are two versions of a man:
- Before marriage - optimistic, idealist, caring, unaware
- After marriage - Awaken, realist, hardened
Things change quickly after marriage. Once you handle the mood swings, tantrums and conflicts you sober up and realize certain things, most important one being how naive you were when you were in category 1.
This seems organic and realistic.
You are not simp, treating a girl with care and honesty is the least we men can do
Don't listen to your friends. Nothing is simping in marriage
Simp behaviour is losing yourself, your identity, your personality for someone who is not going to put in the same efforts for you or is constantly demanding more.
If the above is not the case then it is care out of love and not fear of losing someone.
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Treating a grown up individual like a child is immaturity and simpling especially other person is like a moving goal post when it comes to being happy. Honesty care is deserved by everybody. When it's one way that is also a simp behavior.
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Any summaries?
No effort is smaller in marriage.
Don't be a simp until she is yours. Once she is yours (commited), be the biggest simp and love her as much as possible.
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