Boys and girls Mentality difference!
Boys: Lets have inclusiveness, get them equal pay and boom..
Girls: I earn the same as this boy, I need to look for a better guy to marry!
Lol where did this mentality come from..
Boys might accept someone who is earning less or nothing, but girls would never.
I have seen boys trying to break the bias by showing willingness to marry someone who earns more, but girls be like now he says this but in future his ego will come..
Come on girls you need to start bringing a change in society!
I am not writing this out of frustration or like me personally experiencing this, I swear on god, I am not looking for a bride too at this moment or any time soon in the near future.
It's just I am trying to understand the opposite gender by observing them, and the more I dive into their minds I am hating them!
Lol, just be clear I am straight.. And might be that I am surrounded by not so good girls!
Not intending to hurt someone but my heart wants to spill these thoughts somewhere, so it doesn't stay in and act like poison!
Sorry if it hurts..
Girls: I have received a well-deserved promotion. I work hard to grow professionally. Boys: She is very close to her manager. That’s why she got the promotion.
To get to the point - generalising doesn’t work. While you have seen men being open to higher earners, I have also seen women being open to be the sole breadwinners. So should we generalise? No. I used to date a guy who, i later found out, was dating me because I am from a better off family than he is. Should I generalise that all men are money-minded? No.
The world has all kinds of people. Whom you like, speak to. Whom you don’t, let them be & move on.
India did a good job educating women, but didn’t really teach men how to handle confident, successful partners. So for many, it’s not about ego — it’s unhealed insecurity and old conditioning.
In short
Women grew. Mindsets didn’t catch up
There used to be times may be 3-4 decades back when edu for females was not a thing. And girl, forcefully kept uneducated, was supposed to marry some xyz. Now whether they beat, make her cry or exploit for other reasons.. she was supposed to accept it as fate. So that time was lady earning 0 and guy earning some.
But in these times, things have changed a lot.. its good to see girls achieving heights. I too have a younger sister. Now its like nobody can't force you or exploit.. its no more like you are dependent.. so its good in this way.. And that similar pattern is still there somewhere lady earning x and she wants somebody who is earning y (y > x)..
But there is no direct ans to yr ques actually.. bcz I personally have seen so many examples where girl is earning more or equal to their partner.. and they are super happy..
So, its not like "break the bias" or "mentality diff"...
Rest exceptions are everywhere. Its better to not go into reasoning of that.. just accept it.. and trim down your search space to where normal laws are applicable. Thats how I see it and will go about it. (26M).
Say whatever you want, debate as much as you can,
The truth is that boys owe to be the sole provider. They must.. as a boy, ask yourself. Do you even have a chance to depend and live upon your partner’s money?
It’s not a need or enforcement, but an identity that defines you to be the struggler, one that carry along many, ignoring all the sacrifices and pains with the hidden smile.
And that’s how you truly value yourself and thrive fully as a true identity of yourself
Boys: I need a Gharelu, Educated housewife
Girls: I am not going to leave my job:)
Reality is really different where some girls are really fighting for their right to work:)
Bhai ladkia bahut bekar kism ki prani hai !!! Inse bas duniya bhar ke bakcho bate kara lo lekin jo tumne pucha uska ans kisi ke pass nhi hai
