Biggest fearrrr
One of my biggest fears is - being TOO MUCH. Being too emotional, too excited, too energetic or too dramatic. I am not sure whether men will be able to relate to this post, but yes. Why am i always that one person in the room who feels too much ?
On the last day of school, work etc i am the one who feels the most emotional. There are days when i might just get to excited to get out of bed and maybe for a trivial thing like hopping to a cafe. When people around me dont resonate on the same level, i try to tune it down. And then i end up feeling bad for the child within me, the little girl who got excited for no reason at all.
I once went to a party where i got drunk and spoke a lot to everyone, the next morning everyone was like oh she talks so much, so is so loud, she has so much energy. I felt really bad about myself and tried to tune it down a lot. Anyways i have moved on from the incident, but i still feel bad for myself sometimes.
I am always so scared what if my partner would end up feeling annoyed with how much i speak or with how often i cry. Maybe if i was in their place, i would get annoyed too?
I dont really know why this happens. Is it the hormones or is it my nature in general? Can i or should i fix this ? Can anyone else too relate with this ?
Sounds like me when I was younger. Have continually worked on toning down my expectations and emotions for about 2 decades now. Now about 35 years old, I rarely feel any great pleasures or any great sorrows. It's like you are not in the vortex of emotions and expectations anymore. Pro of this approach is that you're able cut through the hype and see the approaching reality for what they are. Con is that it's like living your life in black and white or dull colors compared to living life in vivid colors earlier. You've to choose what you want to be.
P.S. Am a guy.
Those are some wise words, i feel we should not try to tone down any bit of ourselves even if it doesn’t make sense to others
Girl, a therapist is right for you. Online forums can't give you the right advice. Also, these things are pretty common. They can be tuned with time so chill. As long as you don't cross any lines, nobody thinks about you.
They listen, prescribe medication to help you sleep, and send you back. Therapy may help you regain clarity, but the world will not change and people will remain the same.
Chill guys i am okay, i have been to therapy. I just put the post to see if others also feel the same. Im not asking for any help here :(
@WillingBlack Here me 😄 People say I talk too less, so I think you should pair up with someone opposite like me. You can teach them to be loud and expressive, and they can teach you to be calm and grounded. Perfect balance LOL😂
Jokes apart, people label everything as “too much” or “too less.” It’s just different energy levels, not a problem at all.
So true actually
Eh, I am too much too. Too much energy, emotions, loud, fiery, happy - but bruh I enjoy being myself. I like the childlike energy that I have. And people from all walks of life have always been kind to this energy.
Remember people don't notice you, but they sure do reflect what YOU think about yourself.
So, why shame yourself or feel embarrassed for who you are at your core?
Thats the sweetest thing i read today, thankyou for that energy
Very relatable 🥹
Way too many people who feel too much Including me(Guy)
Don't worry
Bonus: Nobody is thinking about you, they are thinking about themselves, just like you.
