I feel dejected when I see couples around me, i question everything of what I did in my life, it's easy for many and it's very difficult for some, i never wanted any companionship in college and school i used to enjoy my solitude., But since I never tried socializing it's like very difficult for me know, I know many people are like me but they have good friends to hold their hands and help them with socializing, I don't even have friends who can handhold me.
I never thought that life will roast me on this thing that I never focussed on willingly, and now i don't know how to even interact with people, i ignored socializing so much that I feel awkward and nervous in a group of people but on the same time i want to be in a group as well.
I don't know how to chanelize these emotions but eventually I saw I'm becoming a numb person who doesn't feel happy or sad or excited at all. At times I want there should be person who could listen to me all day, make my presence felt and heard, but yeah it appears farsighted and sparse as of now.
It feels like being stuck in a cyclone and the more I try to come out the more I'm sucked into it. I wish that things turn out to be in my favour, nevertheless whatever happens one can't do anything except living with it regardless. Thanks for reading on what I feel.
You skipped the socializing tutorial in your youth, and now it’s like you’re trying to join a party where everyone else knows the secret handshake.
You don’t need a handholder; you’ve got stories and depth that’ll draw the right folks when you’re ready. Keep feeling, keep venting, you’re heard, and I’m rooting for you to find your crew. Life’s weird, but it’s got your back.😃
You would get a lot of advice about getting out of comfort zone, doing social activities and everything else, but one thing which really helped me was talking to people who are much younger than you, let's say some interns at your place or new joiners. They treat you with much more respect, and are usually fun to be around. Also, they cherish your company. It's a win-win situation, they get to learn from you and you get to socialize. Don't limit to just workplace interactions, I play football with college students every weekend, and my gym partners are also college students. You get the idea right?
Yes but in my team fresher hiring is not there bro, and how to even know who are freshers from other teams, I also thought this and what u said is actually true they would straight away enjoy my company, but it depends on environment as well where u could interact with college peeps more
I can totally relate with you. Being a guy with a tough childhood with irresponsible father and backstabbing friends I came a long way. I feel the exact same way that you had explained. And let me tell you there’s no way you can get rid of this.
Basically the problem is guys like us expect a lot from our counterpart to reciprocate our efforts but we don’t get the same in return mostly. So it’s better do what are you good at.
Human are social animal by nature but you will feel lonely anyway unless you get the right company. Perhaps try to talk to different type of people as much as possible and try to engage with them at a personal level if you are comfortable.
Maybe go to a new city get a new job create a new identity that might help. It helped me once.
In the end just be true to yourself it will attract the right set of people no matter how much time it takes. Till then just surrender yourself to the almighty.
If you need someone to talk feel free to ping this brother.
It's ok to enjoy Solitude..
But nurture your hobbies, interest , good will work .
Purpose is big lie .... No one guarantees happiness with it.
Couple also feel loneliness , occupied, numb.
Make good conversation around anything to anyone.. something will crack..
Happiness is subjective.....If you live in good city subscribe to Badminton , Cricket Turf , Volunteering.
Check " duniya me bahot gum hai... Hamara to bahot kam hai....."
Hope this helps....🌐🌏
Hi brother.
Hope you had some food. I am in your same shoes. But I am 23.
I will do everything that is within my reach to socialize while working towards my career. I hope to find her organically (I hope she is safe and doing well)
Could be that I fail too after a certain time. But it's fine If at least I try.
I can't provide any solutions brother, other than a warm hug 🫂.
Thanks man, it ain't easy to find someone but what hurts the most is girls love so much to their partners and they cheat on them, and we guys who have so much love to give don't have anyone to share it with
You’re not alone bro
Btw @SoggyBasil4 accha hai your are becoming Numb and not dumb like me 🤣
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