Attracting towards guys
Hey grapevine friends, I am 24F. I just married 9 months ago. Ofcourse, it's a love marriage, 10 days love and we decided to get marry. My husband is super good , I love him so much. Nobody can love me more than him I guess.
I don't have friends not even girls not even boys in my office or in my life except my husband.
Here's a twist, after loving him so much whenever I see any handsome guy i start getting attracted and whenever any person message me my heart get butterflies and I love talking to that person as I am a chatterbox.
I feel bad to think that why this is happening to me after I am loyal to my husband and our relationship is going so good. But sometimes, we have fight and I think I should have someone to discuss and I don't know why my vibe don't match with girls. Sometimes, some guy talk and I talk that's it.
Please suggest what is this going on with me.
Love marriage things.........if u still get attracted to other men....you are infatuated with ur husband ...not in love.....sorry
No I love him so much...
I think you haven’t enough time before marriage and bonding takes time. Friendship is just foundation and love is a house you have to focus on building it by respecting and trusting each other . Not getting carried away by other men casual talks are fine . Emotional bonding with your husband and children will turnaround things it takes effort
See attraction is natural but always remember your limits and trust that your husband have in you. Having male friends is absolutely normal but don't disclose your private life to anyone, it will harm you only. No one can love you more than your husband.
In your case when you said you dont have male as well as female freinds..what it seems is that you crave to be heard and thats the complete essence of being a women.. Every women wants to be heard. but you dont have female friends for that so males give you more attention because why not.. But remember cheating doesnt start when one day you suddenly get physical.. it starts with this sudden feeling butterfly feelings you get , with you thinking of someone else even in your home , with you sharing your small details with someone that actually creates bonding... and one day you will slip because of it.. Advice-- Make some female friends.. you will get along.. and than plan things with your husband alone.... And in case of any doubts just ask your self one thing who will be standing beside your bed when you will be terminally ill..and that's the person to dedicate your life for..❤️
24 is the age when you will get attracted by others even if you love someone. This is natural. Please continue to spend time with your husband. Nothing to worry
At least you are clear that you love him and he love you the most. You know there is nobody can love you like him. Talking to someone else is fine. Attractions are fine as we are human being. You can talk people, share your interest with them. After all we are human. Only important thing you should understand that your husband should be top priority and when he needs you , you need to stop everything and be with him that's how a relationship works :) All the best
I think mostly girls are born with this, I read in a book that when women cheat they aren't actually aware of it and not even thinking about cheating. But it happens most of the times.
P.S.- I'm not referring to all girls, I have seen many loyal girls to an extend which one can't even imagine.
Take care
Which book is it , please share the details.
