Arranged marriage market is a joke
Anyone else absolutely exhausted by the arranged marriage market right now? You work hard to get into a stable global MNC, make a very comfortable salary with actual WLB, and suddenly you're just a 1-page PDF.
It is humiliating. You bust your ass for years to build a career. You finally get some peace and stability. Then you enter this AM shit and boom. You are literally just a set of drop-down filters.
CTC. Height. Caste. Sub-caste.
Every weekend is the same torture. Awkward forced meetups. Interrogations from parents who don't understand shit about the current job market. Prospects treating you like a backup option while they wait for some US return guy.
I make good money. I actually have time to live my life after 6 PM. None of it matters. If you don't fit the exact delusional checklist, you get ghosted. Rejected because kundali didn't match or because I'm 5'8 instead of 5'10.
The mental fatigue is insane. Way worse than any toxic manager I've ever had. I am seriously close to deleting all these apps forever Let it be.
I literally created my profile in matrimonial app… i keep rejecting people … deep down i know i never gonna marry !!!! Its annoying sometimes when these matrimonial app leaks your phn numbers 🤦🏻♂️… i created these apps to see girl’s desperation … earning 0 , want a guy earning 50-60lakhs , govt job obsession is really high here 🤣… i really enjoy the show when i get bored… Few of them are really genuine … i leave a polite message to them with respect. The fact i know , arrange marriage never lasts … if its lasts then there will be some condition/ patriarchal thoughts / domination /lust and other… stay single … live your life … one day or other u gonna die miserably …. Just look at the climate changes , corruption, conversion, rap*, theft case … do you really want ur kids to live here ??? Or be like them… 🫰…
lol I got rejected by girl earning 1/5 of my income because she is from IIM and I’m not
Then bro one day she will earn more then you if she is from IIM. Try to impress her let this AM become LM. And yes rejection are far better then fake matches
Is it MBA from IIM or some certification? Also which course. No offense to anyone but there is massive difference in doing HR from new IIMs vs doing finance from IIM ABC
Guys being single for whole life sounds exited in early stage, but when all of your friends and cousins get married and have kids they don't have time to spend with you just how they are spending right now so before deciding anything try being isolated from everyone and make sure you are not hangout with any of them on weekend as well, do it for 6 months (also try going hospital to see how they feel when nobody with them in their last stage).
And yes you didn't get partner for your self and now your parents have to rely on arranged marriages and there also you get rejected it seems fault is in you. Those who want to live single don't make noise on social media platforms i believe
AM market is like the sabzi mandi. Super Market vegetable section, neighbourhood shop or the whole sabzi mandi, almost all work on the same lines.
The season items get sold first. Premium rates are charged for the "demand". The good quality veggies go next. The people who prefer the quality come in the morning when the "sabzi arrives". Then comes the late morning purchasers. Who know the "arrival time" but still come late because "it's fine". By late evening the veggies look dry and the heat takes it toll. They no longer are fresh. The bulk people like hotels and catering business people take the reasonably ok items. The compromise of quality for cost. By the end of the day there will always be some veggies rejected by everyone. It gets thrown away.
The next day, a fresh batch arrives. The same story repeats.
We all have a shelf life.
the usual dating scene is also the same. you have your superficial filters and if some/all of them hit you call it love. here you have different superficial filters and if all of them hit you call it compatibility.
In reality all these checklists on either platform are a joke.
people usually realise this a few yrs in the marriage/relationship bit by then the sunk cost is too much to bear.
true filters are simply being able to trust each other through painstaking times and be honest with how you feel , the good, the bad and the ugly.
although what I'll concede is that there is not a checklist for filtering this . a rough idea can be formed only via observation of actions in an unbiased way.
that's why relationships originated anywhere that start with true friendships are usually the one to last although their rarity is through the roof.
Why did you expect anything else ? AM is arrangement, so anyone would want to get an arrangement as favourable as possible, it could be financial, looks , or anything.
Just like you are looking for an arrangement where WLB and peace are prioritised over money and looks.
Have you not rejected anyone so far in your search ?
Lol why you haven't included location? For me girls are not interested in me because apparently I do WFH. To be honest I want to move to metro City (Pune banglore Hyderabad) but Girl side expects that they'll only even think about marrying me if I have my own flat there. If I take out 1.5 cr loan and buy a flat I would be considered Rich but as of now I'm not worthy of even talking to them even when I have more than 1.5cr net worth.
Funny thing is in india you won't even get a single rista If you don't have your own home at least somewhere in india. (2 is recommended but 1 is a must). You should have maids working at your home. But if you're out of India let's say canada somehow girl is ready to do a job which is actually a hactic then come home and make dinner (along with boy not alone) and clean house (along with biy as well) and many times biy don't have car as well. But yeah it's foreign.
Lol bro that own flat requirement just filtered 90% male population
5'8 instead of 6" lil bro. Ever heard of heightflation?
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