Arrange marriage expectations
Hi
I am 28 f. I want to know what are expectations from a girl in an arrange marriage. Because I have seen many guys rejected my interest in matrimony. I am average looking girl who focus on career . Please be honest.
Hello sister, first come out of this thought that you are an avg looking girl. Second matrimony rejections are casual not only because of your profile. The truth is matrimony creates alot of options that's why it is happening. As I've one sister whom my parents and myself are looking for an alliance on behalf of her. Both in matrimony and in real life with multiple sources from relatives etc. First of all you need to be clear about ur marriage and everything after that, just because you are getting rejections from interest doesn't give u an answer. Look for yourself a good finding, give a request and if they accept then share your thoughts and about yourself without you guys. Then make the next step if you find its positive.
This. The app culture creates an illusion of choice, and I was thinking boys were the victims. Now I can see girls are also victims of the same.
And don't take rejections personally. Just like a job, people try to find a person fit for their expectations, be it beauty, earnings, assets, expectations from the other person out of alliance etc. Other than that, there are a few expectations people don't even know they have until they come across a situation. Treat yourself as an equal in the process, neither greater than them nor less.
Hope you find your match soon. All the best!
Chat for 1-2 days to know basic details then switch on a voice call and share what kind of person you are and what are your career goals and what kind of partner you want. Be clear with what you want. Ask questions which matters to you. Share your past relationship, your financial responsibilities, what kind of family you want and your moral values then ask the same from the guy. Try to understand if you both have similar thoughts related to marriage and have the same moral values. Take your time to know the person , don't rush to any conclusion. Meet that person outside ( public place) multiple times before saying yes to the marriage. When you are meeting them, see if their words match their actions because some people are good at saying but they don't reciprocate the same through their behaviour. Don't compromise with the Respect. Choose someone who respects you and appreciates your presence in his life. All the best buddyy
No yaar I fails in initial step of viewing photos and initial family meetups
Since you asked for honesty, here it is:
Looks come first.
Then, family background and reputation.
Then, emotional maturity. Any feminists are instantly rejected as no one wants grief in their life.
Then, adaptability. Will you be willing to adapt to my family or would you want everyone else to adapt to your whims.
Then, how much you love your career. Are you willing to sacrifice it to extend family if need arises or will you fight over it and sabotage the childhood and future of kids.
Nothing wrong in being a feminist or a career focused girl, just that I would not want to be married to one.
These are just my 2 cents, honestly as you asked for.
This is my opinion as a guy on this matter. There are many different types of families with different mentalities. You can't keep a track of everything, neither can you morph yourself for different families. Even if you do and you get married, you won't be your true self because you'd be too busy pretending what the family likes and one day you'll be exhausted.
So my advice is please be true to yourself and be very open in any kind of discussion. If a family doesn't like you, think of it as a dodged bullet. There are plenty families and guys who would want exactly someone like you who is career focused, modern and open minded.
As someone who is also unmarried and is in "peak marriage years", plenty people find it very surprising that I would much rather prefer someone who is also career focused like me and has her own hobbies and personality than a girl who is "perfect daughter in law material (basically a submissive housewife)".
So like us I'm pretty sure there are many people our age trying to figure out these things and it's very normal to be worried or stressed. If it happens then it happens but no compromise on personal goals.
Tl;dr...... don't worry. Things will turn out fine. But don't worry about what people will or wouldn't like.
why do u sound like female version of me? didn't try matrimony tho
Keep expectations low as you as female is 28 is late but not that much and you can only get matched with boys of age above 30.
I myself 32M looking for girl but age limit should be below 29 so try to seriously look within next 1year have engaged, you can take time in courtship period but hurry is different than recklessness so choose wisely.
Most guys in their 30s want a bride below 26/27. So yeah you may get guys in 34/35 age groups. But if they have an option to chose someone younger they will prefer that definitely.
Keep your expectations slightly lower perhaps but don’t compromise on your non negotiable terms. Happy hunting.
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