Are men living in a joint family a red flag?
I’ve been receiving marriage proposals from men who live in joint families. I’ve also observed my relatives who have been part of such families. I’ve noticed that these men tend to be less open-minded and flexible, and they adhere to traditional values.
My friends who have been part of nuclear families have shared similar experiences, stating that it can be challenging to adapt to the lifestyle and expectations of these men. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this matter.
Absolutely they are,
I'm telling u from my personal experience
Pls pls save yourself
I have been a victim of such a man
I got his profile from an arranged marriage set-up the guy was a Data scientist in the big four
His mother insisted that my mother let them talk and decide afterall they have to live life together
After one week of these I got text from him
He always kept on showing me that he is a very spiritual and nice type of man
He proposed to me on the 2nd January 2026
Within one month of talking before our conversation he had feelings for another girl who rejected him after meeting him for his looks . I compromised for looks after all I am getting love so I thought looks personality are secondary
Then he was romantically close to me it was my first experience in love
Before this i never been into any relationship
His parents decided to meet me and my parents we spent lots of my money on their welcoming host etc
I'm 5ft tall but beautiful
And the guy was not good looking initially my family and my brother were against That he doesn't deserve u but I told them looks don't matter to me .
After three months of proper relationship he betrayed me and his mother scolded me to be open minded we are such a modern family that u have no father u r weak this that
I can't explain how she treated me with fake promises about marriage that we r okay dowry etc we are living in Mumbai so we have such an open life my son has a lot of female friends and u r binding him.
His sister also treated me so falsely.
The whole family was so so fake full of lies and looters.
The guy even told me that I love u i won't leave u ever yesterday itself then he stopped taking my calls and msgs after his mother's influence.
Imagine a stranger coming to live in your house with your family. Would you expect him to live by your values or the other way around?
Marriage always involves compromise on all fronts, it isn't just the woman who adjusts to the family.
It's not easy and not simple. Rarely effortless.
Historically women have been subject to more oppression due to patriarchal systems, so your statement doesn't hold good.
Your two paragraphs are so contradictory. A woman is marrying and moving to a stranger's house basically and she is expected to LIVE BY YOUR VALUES. Marriage involves compromising on ALL fronts??? What does the other party compromise here I don't get it?? NO THANK YOU !!! 😭😭😭
Please try to marry someone who is handsome, wealthy, knowledgeable, gives time to you anytime of the day. Occasional gifts like necklace, free to move or travel whenever and wherever you needed. Ensure there is no nuclear family.
Sincerely advise, After 15 yrs , please don't make your family a nuclear ☢️. Ensure that you don't touch kitchen after marriage. Wish you a Happy life.
Ensure there is no nuclear family?? What are you even saying?
Ha woh to disha pathani hai na, ye sab to aasaani se mil jayega fr
Unfortunately yes. Most of them have a very "raja babu" upbringing. They have barely moved a muscle for any household chore. They won't even move a glass.
True..they don’t want to do basic household chores
Red flag. Avoid. You will become the next househelp, with pressure from multiple members in the extended family.
The off-chance it's a nice family, then you'll need heavy interviewing of all of them. One rotten apple is enough to spoil the bunch.
If the man is the alpha in the family, then you will be subject to different issues, number one being money.
Marry same net worth as you and then compare . Meaning your own earned net worth which you will be taking away in marriage from your father and ask men net worth and am then marry on your status . Otherwise men enjoy outside as well with money and party
This isn’t about justifying anyone’s earnings it’s about the flawed logic that financial status is a proxy for character. Even in cases where a woman earns significantly more, it doesn't guarantee she won't suffer if the partner's mentality is toxic. The same goes for men earning more doesn't insulate them from a partner with a poor nature. High net worth doesn’t buy integrity, and low net worth doesn’t equate to a lack of it. Behavior is rooted in the environment someone was raised in and what they’ve seen normalized throughout their life. You simply cannot audit a person’s character using a salary slip.
The way @BeTheBestYouCan @Shakuntala are commenting like inlaws are beating and scolding them every day and looking at the hate towards men is kinda good.
Looks like you don't spend time analyzing families, relationships, and the effect it has on a society and its evolution.
You also seem to be a male because you obviously are oblivious to the hidden pains women go through.
Go ask 2 women not only about their experiences and those of their circles. Of course, I don't know if you have the skills for knowing 2 women.
You don't come ftom a family? If you're from nuclear family and have never seen a joint family then you should stay away. You are a red flag to a joint family.
You don't come from a family? If you don't know how women get mistreated and gaslit by numerous family members, then you should stay away from marriage. You're a red flag to women.
Not red flag but people suggest atleast 2year travel without family. First you know about each other. Understand properly and then bring family. Because for girl it may feel difficult to face all people at once . Guy will feel on safe arms where as girl may not. She will have many obligations on her shoulder nd expectations. So she may feel pressure.
