Any 35+ M here and who is going through this?

Not 35M (clearly) But these Indians uncles and aunty cannot accept the fact that someone choose no marriage as a CHOICE. They have to make them seem leftover, lonely, discarded last piece of society.

Marriage is not an answer for everything

Why do people assume that their marriage is going to be bad ?

A/B testing:

35M+ males with wife and kids. Could you find men going through unhappiness and he'll despite their married lives? There might be many sex less, loveless and lonely married men in that cohort too.

Such people already have something or doing something which is more interesting to them then this family or marriage thing.

it's upto the person how long they can carry with what they are doing.

There is something called natural goal fitted in us which makes us procreate, as long as you can keep up with your ongoing life then it's fine.

I got married late natural goal made me anxious (not by looking at other people but inner voice) and was driven towards it, after a kid that anxiety is gone.

I have friends (male and female)who are above 40 like mentioned in post but doing fine professionally as well personally, also some friends who are close to 35 but very desperate to get married or get in relationship, it's upto individual how they carry themselves.

Ask those kind of people to read about minimalism and Advaita vedanta.

Keeping your mind, heart and action in sync is the key.

Women not willing to Marry a doctor!!! The second most prestigious profession in India. Damm , what do these women want?.
I pity all those mid 30 women who rejected him and are still single. Wonder what they will talk about in the old age homes when they are 60+, the ppts they made?. The report they updated?, the appraisal discussion they had with their manager?...

I grew up in a small town. I will consider my life successful if I can get my kids out of this urban shit hole.

It used to be Single Income Two+ Kids, Then Dual Income Two Kids, Then Dual Income No Kids, Now Single Income Unmarried is the trend, despite higher income?

I hope people find some engaging activity to do in their 50s other than gadgets. I doubt because there are many who can’t spend an hour without internet.

Marriage/Kids seems the biggest responsibility people are not ready to accept, after smashing all hurdles in getting settled job. But I get it why one choose to remain unmarried, It’s great if they can enjoy their solitude.

33 M here. Married. Without kids. To each of its own. I know 40+ single men being content in their life chasing their own goals which might not have marriage on their cards yet.

I also know married folks with kids pursuing all their goals, struggling with debt but still happy with their life as they took their own decisions. Thats that.

Hey this is me. Not the tweeter but what he describes

Somebody get this boy to therapy.....