Anger Control ,
How do you control anger especially around family. I am very rude to my family or my mother and i do not even realise my tone has changed in that moment until someone get back to me and few moments later i realise that things could be handled better if my tone was a bit softer and then the entire home atmosphere is tense and i am the reason , If i learn to control my anger at that particular moment things could be better.
When I was in TCS, one person said something along the below lines ( as part of their scrum onboarding)
Did you ever notice how we tend to control our anger/frustrations with colleagues/bosses but not with family. Shouldn’t it be the other way around where we acknowledge our family members are more important to us and we should try our best to not offend/hurt them.
Not easy to follow everytime but definitely brings to perspective most of the times for me. Maybe this might work for you too?
That's what i want to master , i feel horrible when i hurt them , i want this anger emotion itself to be deleted in myself but i keep on repeating this thing , i know i can control but it always go out of hand as i said sometime i do not even realise my tone is changed , yes once my senior also lashed out on me and i was not hurt but i feel things from my family more or it might be i know they wont leave me , i can be myself but that is no justification to be angry on them , i even considered therapy to not get much angry.
Whenever you feel angry, just silently move out from others and isolate yourself.
And if you constantly get angry for small small reasons it is mainly because of stress and lack of sleep.
I used to be like that and eventually I just have given up really. No point in wasting energy is the way you should view it
Learn to pause for a moment before u speak...it always helps...and try to understand where that anger stems from...maybe some unresolved issues at work or something troubling u on the inside...try working on resolving that first...things will fall into place eventually...even then don't expect to be perfect...all these work 99% of the time but that 1% happens too...it's a part of the process...learn to accept, reflect, ask for forgiveness and let go
Bachpan me jhapad nhi pade?
Mujhse dosti karogi?
Just pause and think if it was other way around how you would like to be treated
Being shouted at ? Or being forgiven ?
Chappal and Belt can de-demonize you.😂
