Am I overthinking, or is this a good habit for the future?
Over the past year, I’ve been maintaining a personal journal. I use a simple format where I note down any special moments and learnings that come from specific events in life. It’s not daily, just whenever something truly feels meaningful.
Format:
- Quick snapshot
- Mirror moment (What I saw about my self)
- Action items (mini-experiments to improve myself)
- Growth tracker
- Note to Future me
- Note to Future wife
My thought behind this is that, one day, I’d like to revisit these memories with my wife, maybe as little stories, reminders of how we grew together, what we experienced, and what we learned along the way as a human being or with family.
But sometimes I wonder am I just exaggerating in my own world by doing this? Or is it actually normal (and maybe even valuable) to record life like this?
Would love to know if anyone else does something similar, or if you think this kind of practice adds meaning when we look back later.
PS: I'm not married yet.
Biggest question is where to get a wife from ?
There are so many girls in India bro. Why to bother much? Just ensure you are good at your part and don't look at getting a wife as cracking an interview by keeping a resume ready. Keep the conversations organic, if people will like you they will eventually come to you.
Yes there are people in this world who are very good with words, their inner thoughts are different but they speak something different just to manipulate and I have seen girls getting manipulated very much by them sometimes but it's okay. Don't rush. Peace honi chahiye.
I'm an introverted overthinker so I don't need a journal lol
Overthinker ko toh aur bhi zyada jaroorat h bhai
I am an overthinker as well and I often spiral to to the worst possible outcomes. Journaling has helped me to channel those thoughts and find the triggers and has now become therapeutic. I do look back and tell myself that see it didn’t turn bad.
Heyy, Yes I'm doing this from last 4 years (started in Covid)
The only thing I struggle is keeping these diaries somewhere. Writing my 9th one currently.
Even I thought I might read someday later on, but I hardly read.. although it's interesting when I do read.. how instantly I connect to my past self, how I keep that in current pov and etc.
Also I don't think others should have say in how to write, what to write. If you are enjoying, do it, if not, take a break, do something else. There's no hard rules as such.
Also, since I can see your motivation is to re-visit, trust me it's worthy to read at times. For me it is just to vent, talk with myself, understand things, and it DOES HELP A LOT. Keeping things out of myself and watching them.
So take a deep breath. No one is judging you on writing, nor on what and how you are writing.
It's your life, make it large 🥂
I am saving in dayone.me
I used to write one from 2020. I was under depression from last two years and this habit worked in reverse direction... Since we overthink to some extent during writing, this started increasing my self doubts. I Was just filing pages and pages of my mistakes, regrets and my situation became worst. My doctor insisted me to stop writing it. Hopefully will start again with positive thoughts.
Hey first of all.. I hope you are all okay now and if not.. have faith in almighty.. things are going to be totally fine one day..
What you said is true to some extent as it varies from p to p but what I do naa.. I try to add a laughing element... I mean the aim is keep learning and fun together..
I will tell you one instance -
In first year of my college when I was new to programming... I directly started giving codechef contest after being inspired from seniors. I couldn’t solve a single problem though.
I tried to upsolve and I pinged my senior that sir can you help me this... Sir told it’s easy only ...try using DP ...
Now comes the funny part... I only knew dynamic memory allocation till that time... I was totally unaware of DP and I didn’t do a google search either... I modified the code to dynamically allocation the array and re-ran the code... obviously it didn’t work...
I approached my senior again... that sir dp se bhi nhi ho raha... And after that it was all 😂🤣🤣 for quite a few days... because my senior was sitting with his friends...
So, this is one funny instance... I have many happy, sad, fun, neural, what I could have responded etc etc moments written there.
I do the same😅. But I also write when things go wrong. That helped to figure out my emotions and respond better to a situation. All of what you said seems like you are working on your self-awareness journey and that's absolutely good to have. I write letters to my past and future self, to my future partner and that gets me excited about the time when I will get to show this to my future husband. It actually helps me to know myself and my choices better. So, yes! It does add meaning to your life when you look back.
I'm an extreme overthinker. I have realised that you tend to overthink the same things over and over again when you want to keep them in your memory and don't want to forget them.
Since I started noting down my thoughts, my mind wasn't worried about keeping them in memory as they were already recorded somewhere else, and then you suddenly start feeling so much lighter when you're not carrying the burden of your thoughts.
True that.. and I'm amazed there are other people who are somewhat like me.. I used to think I'm the only one who overthink about overthinking
I think people who write are most well aware about themselves and also want to improve and grow, they hold accountability closer to them
It's ok unless you do not expect your disciplined approach will guarantee you a reliable future. Things are getting very dynamic, and ideas and technologies are outdated rapidly.
I just expect to go disciplined... Irrespective of the how the future will look like... :)
The problem is not with the approach but with the expectations. People who are disciplined get hurt more when things go wrong. It is like expecting everyone to be nice because you are nice. It will not work that way.
Yeah, it untangles the messed up threads inside your head. Not sure how it helps in case of good memories but.. if it's messed up, it sure helps in cleaning things up.
That's nice. I do something similar, inspired from bullet journaling where I have a pocket notebook where i jot down my favorite/intresting moments from the day.
