Am I overreacting?
Today I spoke with a friend.l after a long time. He is 22 M. He said he got commited few months ago. His gf was born in 2007 (He is 2003) sep 5,i.e., yesterday was her 18th b'day.
They got commited around June so he was seeing a 17 year old women. When I asked him about this, he said it's not a big deal, I don't know she's minor until we got commited, it started out as friends etc. For context, this is a long dist relationship so they haven't met yet, and now he's saying since she's 18 now it's okay. He even showed a photo of her (taken when she was 17) and ask me did she looks like 17. She didn't, she looked someone of our age.
But I still can't convince myself this relationship is legit. He is talking like He going to marry her in future. One of our dumba** friend also gave a advice when he was about to propose to this girl, that, this age group works well because by the time she finish college you'll be having a stable career.
Wht bakwas logic is this? Isn't this punishable by pocso? Are these things normal and I'm overacting or my concerns are right? He also said he will introduce me to his new "minor" gf next month. I can't think ts relationship as real.
So just tell me am I overreacting?
She is no more a “minor”. But if she decides to lodge a case against home for anything done prior to 18 age, I think it could certainly be covered under pocso.
But yes, you are overreacting, I am sure there are many folks who met during School times, befriended, remained in touch, and married later on in life.
Only thing is, in this case, you said it is a long distance relationship and he has never even met her, which is bizarre. Also, what is that “he got committed few months ago”? Is that like he sent whatsApp message, asking her that do you commit, and then she said yes? (Or vice versa). Never heard of people never having met in-person and yet committing. Will they marry too online only!! What kind of imaginary, fictitious story is this!!
Actually they have a mutual friend that's how they got to know each other. And actually there are many relationships where people get committed without even meeting once. Social media made it easy.
I agree if someone know each other forms chool times and get into relationships once both are adults, or even once both are children, it wouldn't be wierd. But 22-17 looks wierd for me.
Imo as soon as he got to know she's 17 he should've cut off the relationship.
You're overreacting, period.
Let your friend be.
