I’m a 25M, and shaadi ki baat ab ghar pe chal rahi hai. But honestly, it’s exhausting.
Almost every girl’s family I hear about has one thing in common — they want a “well-settled” guy.
Translation? Decent package, own house (preferably not rented), car, stable job, future sorted.
No one asks if he’s kind. Or emotionally mature. If he respects women. Or has passions, ambitions, struggles, stories.
Because apparently, unless a man earns a certain figure, he’s not “husband material”. Not man enough.
It’s funny how dowry is frowned upon, but financial checklists somehow aren’t.
Bro, when we were looking for proposals for my elder sister, my family and my sis were having same realistic expectations that you mentioned above, like guy should be a good human being, emotionally mature and is kind. We didn't cared even if he earns less than 1 lac/ month,whether he owns an apartment or live on rent. Because what's the use of that wealth and money if the guy harass or abuse his partner? And by God's grace, we found a good proposal for my sis, the guy earns a decent amount it's not too big, but he respects everyone. It's been 5 years since my sister got married, she is very happy in her married life. So I just want to say, these kind of bride who has realistic and least expectations do exist. Though it may take some time, but don't lose hope, you'll get a good lifetime partner. Wish you good luck.
Very sensible decision
How did you conclude whether that guy had good nature, behaviour etc? Unless it is via very close, trusted relative, difficult to conclude. And such trusted relative brought matches may be very less count, so not practical to keep a hope on this aspect, better get prepared for the risk of it.
That is a reality.
Marriage is a financial M&A deal between 2 families. It was never about the guy and gal nor love nor personalities.
If you aren't able to match with your prospects' expectations, you shud eventually relax your criteria, expand your search. Start looking outside your community, your caste, your language, even the states.
I think when people gets frustrated with not finding matches within their caste and community, it's their adult moment of realizing how orthodox and materialistic their caste-community really is.
Agreed there. I am amazed at why people expect Love marriage aspects in Arranged marriage process. Arranged marriage process has always been like this, nothing surprising, still everybody starts getting shocked.
If they don’t like it, they should shun the caste aspect of it and go for love marriage process.
Men really need to up their standards and should stop being desperate fools. You are better off being alone than marrying a liability. You didn't come this far in your life to bring someone from the outside and feed them for the rest of your life who will manipulate and leech you off, both your emotions and money.
And women who work and have ambitions for themselves, please look for a partner where you are ready to build together. Not a father! You're better off being in your dad's house than looking for someone at 28 who can do everything your dad did.
bro played checkmate
Bhai I've to been told on my face by ladki-wale ki my salary is low 😂😂
And I rather feel that I'm earning enough to live twice in my current salary
Should have told her daughter looked like a j*w
Damn bro! Classic move!! 🔥🔥
How can one be so settled at 25?
Check out of the process, f*** your family’s expectations! You were not meant to live up to impossible standards like this at 25!
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