Advice required!!
My organization underwent restructuring in January, and I was assigned to report to a first-time manager, a woman with around 8 years of experience (YOE), while I have 5 YOE. She intentionally insults me in front of everyone, such as during standups, and seizes every opportunity to pull me down. She has even threatened to remove me from the project. She reports directly to the VP in charge, who visits the office only once a month and manages other companies as well. While everyone acknowledges that I am hardworking and have received client appreciation, it doesn’t seem to hold any value in this situation. How should I handle this? I am getting anxiety attacks due to this. Even if I tell her to remove me from project, we don't have any other projects. Help me out
I've seen self-centred people like her multiple times. They feel that they are above everyone, they do and say anything and everything they want with no fear of being pointed out because of the very reason that they do not have a senior available to the team. So no complaints possible.
There is no point in trying to explain or reason with them. So skip that option.
I think one option is to move out. The other, stay in the company, Own the situation and work against her
You can gather evidence about the situation and the incidents, Pile it up and shoot an email to the management or your VP. Since one person's report does nothing, you can take your colleague's help too. When they get insulted or dominated for no reason, gather evidence along with the context. Keep compiling emails to self until you make a solid 5 to 10 proofs.
Thanks sir for your reply. I have been giving interviews since two weeks. I'm really hoping I will get an offer soon. Working against her is easier said than done. She is very manipulative and she will make anyone believe her. Atleast 4-5 have left the company because of her. She has become a self proclaimed VP now and dominante everyone including people who have more than 10 YOE.
Resign. And till then, be prepared with some diplomatic replies which puts her in hard spot. For ex, if she claims your estimation of 10 days for a task is too much, you could ask her what is the more appropriate estimation in her view, and then if she says- 4 days, you could reply back further that you don’t think dev, unit testing, deployments, qa testing, all could not be done in that short time, keeping in mind there are at least 3 complex scenarios you see in the task… something like that, just prepare yourself better to counter. After a while, if this happens 2-3 times, when she starts getting embarrassed after being put in tough spot, then she may decrease that kind of behaviour. Essentially, it will never stop, because most people’s core nature remains same. But with proper strategic replies, her insulting and toxic behaviour may decrease a bit. And ultimately, just resign as soon as you get a good opportunity
