A Strange Post
Not sure if anyone else is in the boat but here I am in this since childhood. Have been noticing this since past few years that people don’t share stuff to me what they share to others even if we are close enough. For example, something about a common friend, some good/bad news, some discussions on life, I have seen them sharing to others who I feel are not so important people of their life but here I m being one of the last persons to know it or I m either kept out of it, literally happens with every relationship. Want to know GV’s thoughts on it and how to solve this if I really want to improve on building relations cause I feel that’s where the issue is ?
Talking product sense with Ridhi
9 min AI interview5 questions
Yes, i have seen this happen to people around me for mostly following reasons
- You cant keep secrets, you always end up spilling it
- You talk bullshit which makes people uncomfortable ( people usually doesn't bring this up directly)
- You brag about money, trying to show off how much rich you are / how high you are earning compared to others
- Or its completely opposite, you dont spend a penny or never contribute.
- You constantly swtich friend groups
Let me know of any of these above thing matches with you, you can be completely honest.
1 doesn’t seem true I mostly keep my secrets don’t think I spill also lets say I spilled it for a few is there a way to change this reputation or no ? 2 might be true given I have social anxiety and end up speaking bullshit when anxious, have a few episodes where I have literally fucked my reputation but given that I don’t have much it’s still fine. 3-4 doesn’t seem true, I feel I don’t have much money plus I am always happy to contribute anyone to a treat and don’t backout. 5 Given I have social anxiety I don’t have friend groups I am more of into keeping one on one relation with people and this kinda has worked for me from the start so there’s no friend groups as such to switch
- Could be cuz they speak to them more than you
- Maybe you give them solutions to their problems when they only want to rant
- Maybe the conversations they have with you doesn't go into the gossip zone?
- The person they share the gossip with has more gossip topics than you so they exchange it among themselves and maybe you don't gossip much so they think you aren't the type to do that?
Well I check all the above things so people don't tell me that either and if I am in the mood then i specifically ask them to talk about other people