A loyal heart, living in silent pain.
A few years ago, we unknowingly said something that later turned into a painful reality for one of our closest friends.
On 8 December 2019, all of us friends were attending a wedding. We were drinking and joking around, and one of our friends Atul started narrating an incident. Atul comes from a powerful family and is quite popular. He always had attention from girls, often a different one every weekend.
Atul told us that one of his friends-with-benefits partners had once expressed interest in another friend of ours—let’s call him X. She wanted a casual or FWB relationship with X. However, X clearly refused, saying he didn’t want to do anything that could hurt his future partner. He believed in loyalty, even before marriage.
Atul, who was drunk at the time, started making fun of X. We all joined in, laughing and teasing him for being “too loyal” and “not man enough.” During that moment of fun and mockery, Atul said something extremely harsh: “Tu yaha loyalty ki baatein karta rehta hai, aur abhi teri future wife kisi aur se chu***a rahi hogi.” It was said jokingly, without thinking, and the moment passed.
A few days ago, I met X again after many years. He is now married. X has always been a cheerful, smiling person. I had never seen him sad before—but this time, something was clearly wrong. His behavior was completely different. His eyes were teary, and he seemed emotionally broken.
After repeatedly asking him what was wrong, he finally said: “Tum logon ne us din jo mazak mein bola tha… woh sach ho gaya.”
Before marriage, his wife had told him that she had been in one serious relationship. She said her boyfriend had cheated on her, used her emotionally, and refused to marry her. X believed her, understood her pain, and decided to marry her.
However, after marriage, X began noticing many disturbing things. While checking her phone, he found evidence that her past was very different from what she had told him. There were multiple casual relationships, including FWB relationships, and conversations with different men.
What shattered him completely was this: Out of curiosity and pain, he searched for 8 December 2019—the same date when we had mocked him at the wedding. He discovered that on that exact date and time, she was in OYO with one of her friends.
While telling me this, X was shaking. He said he wants to forget everything, but these thoughts keep killing him from inside. X also shared that they are facing serious problems with pregnancy. His wife had taken contraceptive pills frequently during her past relationships, and now X fears that this might be affecting her ability to conceive. Whenever he tries to discuss these issues calmly, she reacts aggressively—fighting, blaming him, and making him feel guilty by accusing him of being narrow-minded.
X is living in constant emotional trauma, confused, hurt, and broken from within.
Guys Never say negative things about yourself or about someone else—even as a joke. You never know which words may turn into reality, and how deeply they can hurt someone’s life.
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That is what you got out of the whole story? Are you dumb? 🤦♂️
The wife was already doing that with her FWBs long before the incident you described.
The friend saying that to X didn’t “make” it come true or "turn it into reality". It was already happening for a long time, irrespective of whether that friend would have said it that evening or not.
If I were you, I would delete this idiotic post, instead of openly advertising to the world how poor your critical thinking and logical reasoning skills were 🤦♂️
You’re correct from a cause-and-effect perspective. What was said that evening didn’t make anything happen—her past choices existed independently of that comment.
But my post was never about superstition or words creating reality. It was about the emotional and psychological impact words can have later, especially when life reveals a painful truth that mirrors them.
For X, the pain isn’t about causation—it’s about memory, timing, and trauma. Hearing those words years ago and then discovering the reality made them echo in his mind in a way that deepened the hurt. That’s a human reaction, not a logical fallacy.
You’re addressing the situation logically; I was addressing it emotionally. Both perspectives can coexist. Dismissing one as “poor reasoning” misses the point of the story.
If someone had said so I front of me about my wife, he would have been paralysed for life...
That's the fucking awesome thing I ever read in this bloody app
Wtf? How is this a problem? 😂 You expect men to have sex anywhere and women can't? This deal requires 2 genders, how can one be out there having sex without the other gender? If she is disloyal during the marriage, then that's a problem but her past relationships only show what kind of person she/he is, not how many times they were physical
Having past relationships is not the problem, hiding this or lying at the time of marriage is the problem. If you want fun only, you should choose a partner like that not a loyal one. Having sex with bad boys all life and getting married with a loyal good one is wrong.
Nowadays most of the girls are following this. They want a boyfriend and one night stands with bad boys. And want to marry good boys.
If you had multiple partners before marriage then you should marry boys who have multiple partners or have the same mentality. Why do girls always want to use things in the way where they will always be in profit? Destroying good families is good for you? And if they fail in marriage again, again they start blaming the boys family and demand more alimony.
You have destroyed your body for having just fun before marriage and now want a good boy to take care of you, face pregnancy problems and pay your hospital bills. And In return he will not have proper sexual pleasure just because you have destroyed your sexual parts just for fun.
This isn’t about a joke becoming destiny. The real butterfly effect is how small choices, made again and again, quietly shape a life. One ignored red flag, one compromise, one lie accepted for love and years later the weight becomes unbearable. Words may hurt, but it’s choices that leave scars.