A Litmus Test for Finding the Right Spouse (Male perspective)

Finding the right life partner is one of the most important decisions we make. There are countless checklists, opinions, and “red flags” shared around us. Below are a few “tests” that people often consciously or unconsciously apply while evaluating a partner.

Test 1: Observe her actions when she is angry with you.

Test 2: Observe her actions when you are angry with her.

Test 3: Talk about breaking up and notice her response. If a relationship breaks easily now, it may break even more easily after marriage.

Test 4: Check how important money is to her. Ideally, it should be important.

Test 5: Observe how often she lies.

Test 6: Notice what happens when someone “better” reaches out to her.

Test 7: If you were to leave your job to follow your passion, would she support you financially and emotionally, just as you would support her?

Test 8: Who does she choose when priorities clash herself, you, her friends, her family, or your family?
A balanced answer is usually choosing herself and you.

Test 9: Observe how she treats waiters, drivers, maids, or people who cannot benefit her.

Test 10: Notice how she reacts when you are unable to give her attention.

After observing all this, choose the person who may have failed most of these tests, and yet, you still cannot imagine losing her. That’s when you pause. Because at this point, the tests are no longer about her. They are about you.

If she “fails” and you can walk away easily, then the intensity of love was never strong enough to sustain a marriage. Many marriages fail not because of lack of practicality or planning, but because love and emotional depth were missing.

Money matters. Stability matters. Practical thinking matters. But they cannot hold a marriage together on their own. What truly sustains a marriage is love , emotional connection, care, empathy, mutual respect, shared vibe and attraction

You cannot easily test another person’s emotions, but you can always test your own. Test your love Test your attachment Test your emotional strength Test your willingness to grow

Because in the end, you are the candidate in this examination.