A girl liked me but I didn't reciprocate
Hey folks over there, just wanted to share some personal story and understand if it was the right move or not and grow and learn more in life
Context: 29M, decent pay. I have never had a girlfriend in my life whatsoever, I liked a girl earlier (literally years back) and she rejected me, which left a scar and I never approached anyone after that, had traumatic childhood as well in the past. Majorly, I never found anyone attractive enough for me to approach who was also interested in me. Then there was a girl a little older than me, and she seemed to be very interested and I guess wanted me to ask her out but I never did and I rather pushed her away because she wasn't very attractive to me (like in my books below 6) but at the same time had all the good qualities anyone would ever want not just in a gf but people even looking to marry (yes, she was a marriage material). I mean if she would've been average at the least I would've definitely shown interest.
So just wanted to know if I did the right thing as even I wasn't interested and would eventually break her heart later on or knowing that it matters to men at least of the opposite gender is attractive enough and is a huge priority (initially) which differs completely on how women select their partners
OR
I should've at least tried to ask her out since I never know or have any experience whatsoever of how coming into a relationships looks like, and might have liked her later because of her feminine qualities and overall being such a good human being.
PS: She's married now and I am beyond happy for her!
From a fellow lifelong bachelor, I don't think it's fair to the other person if you get into a relationship on dishonest premise. While I have given up hopes of finding a gf, atleast I don't want to play with someone feelings if I am sure I won't be attracted to them. I don't think we should treat relationships like jobs, where we don't mind seeing one job as a stepping stone to another
Btw I am a bit younger than you. I used to think when I am closer to marriage age my standards will be more realistic and physical attractiveness won't matter anymore. Is that not the case for you? Has the importance of other factors like personality and other factors you would call marriage material not titled the balance yet?
@CouchPotato I absolutely agree with you bro, thank you for at least letting me know that some people think like this and I am not completely wrong. I don't know why my friends push me so much to get physical experience and all. It's not at all wrong but cannot be dishonest about it and do it with a person whom you aren't fully committed to
Hey Guys, Any sort of advice would be appreciated, would like to understand what do you all think!
