A City of Hustle, A Heart That Misses Home. Regretting my decision
Two months ago, I packed my bags, full of ambition and excitement, and moved to Bengaluru after switching jobs. On paper, it looked like the perfect decision — a 40% hike, some shiny RSUs, and the prestige of joining an MNC. But somewhere between the blaring horns and endless cab rides, I lost a part of myself.
The transition from working remotely to this fast-paced city life has been anything but smooth. Back home, I had peace. My days were a rhythm of work and little life moments — cooking between meetings, chatting with my mom when I felt drained, meeting friends in the evenings. It felt natural, balanced, human.
Now, even though the actual work here is lighter, I end my days feeling more exhausted and less productive. The daily commute eats away hours, and being surrounded by noise, traffic, and constant motion leaves me feeling overwhelmed.
I miss the calm. I miss the comfort of home-cooked meals, the quick breaks that actually refreshed me, the feeling of being home. Right now, I’m trying to figure out food, routine, and life in a place that doesn’t quite feel mine yet.
I don’t know if this was a mistake or just growing pains, but I do know one thing — peace is underrated. And I miss mine.
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I don't agree with it. It gave me a lot of opportunities and i feel we should not generalise it. Not everyone comes from fancy college and not everyone get double digit LPA from day 1. I came from very poor family and very small city. Place like Bangalore is atleast makes my life better and joyful. Definitely i am struggling as everyone due to layoff but i remember that glory days when i was working there.
@Mandolorian okay, respect your view.
1st) Swiggy ain't an MNC
2nd) Grass is always greener on the other side. A few months ago I left the company I founded due to burnout and got back home for mental health. Have been here, working remotely at a US based startup and now I'm missing the hustle. I feel life is too monotonous and boring. No one around me even knows of MCP let alone being annoyed by MCPs filling their twitter and linkedin feed. I'm literally on the verge of moving back. Since the past two months my therapy sessions have been all about how I miss the hustle but someone's gotta take care of my ageing mom. All I'd say is, find a place 5 mins walking from your office (overpay if needed), get some free time everyday, use that for your hobby. You'll indeed feel fulfilled.
- Was in swiggy now in mnc swiggy is remote
- Your suggestions are valid and trying to do similar things. All is i am missing my people here very badly. My mom once said - “jo shanti bina kuch kiye aati h whi sach h baki to bahkawa h jo tumhe murkh bna rha”
Now I am getting this. Pleasure and peace is intangible and effortless
Pardon me for saying anything …
Even i am not sure what i am saying
Kinda same but in Chennai.
Chennai is town mascarading as city.
It's kind of the same, 3 years after working from home, I am now forced work from office. But also I have observed one thing, especially female colleagues they prefer work from office. Even if sometimes they get opportunity to work from home and stay in hometown, they still go to office. So it is not same for everyone, some people also prefer to be away from home and parents. Reason may be anything, but I am unable to understand.
Hmm.
I have also observed that
@Mazdoor420 You can only optimize for any 2 of the below metrics in jobs in market today, the 3rd will always be out of whack.
Metric 1 : Work Life balance and peace of mind
Metric 2 : Good Pay
Metric 3 : Good Quality Work (Growth and Learning)
Pick your poison
What if i say in my team all three is there
For me peace of mind absent though but think about someone who loves living in blr
You didn’t move cities. You abandoned your peace, convinced yourself that money and titles could fill the silence of a home that loved you without conditions. Now you’re in a cage that looks like success, but feels like slow death. You wake up tired, commute with dead eyes, and eat like you’re fueling a machine, not a human. That’s not growth.... that’s erosion.
The worst part? You knew. Somewhere deep inside, you knew. But the world clapped for your decision, so you stayed quiet. And now you're paying rent for a life that doesn't feel like yours.
Solution? Burn the rulebook. Stop asking permission to live. Cut down your hours. Remote isn’t a privilege.... it’s your right if your sanity’s on the line. Rebuild your peace like your life depends on it.... because it does. And if this place still doesn’t feel like home after that, then pack your bags again ....this time, not for money, but for you.
I also gone through same situation in 2022 November, Then realised that Bangalore looks good new news or in pictures. Only native of Bangalore can feel good but for outsiders it is not good place to work. Now I’m back to north near to my hometown. And feeling relaxed and cool. Don’t go for package in Bangalore. You can get same in Delhi, Noida and Gurgaon easily but take time or get little low but happy.
