QuirkyBiscuit
QuirkyBiscuit

Looking to be friends with Girls from bangalore

Hey Bengaluru family, listen up. 23-year-old Telugu techie stuck in the wonderful world of startups. Don't get me wrong, the work's exciting, but the social life? Let's just say the only Dosa I'm getting these days is the one I ordered from (IYKWIM).

Now, I wouldn't be here crying into my filter coffee if it wasn't for the lovely ladies. Yes, you heard that right. I want friends—female friends! Don't get any ideas; it's all very innocent. I just crave a normal social circle that doesn't involve endless PUBG matches with the same five dudes.

The problem? Fear. It hits me like a Bangalore autorickshaw in rush hour—paralyzing. Talking to girls at work feels like navigating the Koramangala traffic—one wrong turn and it's chaos. I try to be friendly, with a simple "hey" or a compliment on their saree, but my Telugu accent goes into overdrive, and suddenly I sound like I'm serenading a cow instead of a coworker.

Look, I know online dating exists, but trust me, swiping right on girls who look like they could be on a Kannada movie poster isn't exactly leading to meaningful connections. I want to meet people organically, over chai at a local cafe, or maybe at one of those fancy rooftop bars (minus the fear, of course).

So, here's my plea to the Bengaluru Redditverse: any advice for a shy Telugu techie who just wants to expand his friend circle beyond dudes and delivery guys? Should I take a Kannada class to improve my small talk? Is there a secret handshake for "normal conversation with girls" that I haven't been invited to? Help a brother out, y'all!

P.S. Bonus points if you know any Telugu-speaking girl groups in Bangalore looking for a new member (who can also bring the best biryani recommendations). I'm just throwing it out there.

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PerkyPancake
PerkyPancake

Please hesitate

SnoozyNarwhal
SnoozyNarwhal

I can get your perspective brother

Having a female interaction is much more than what people think

It gives us the emotional stability, most of the things I share with my female i never imagine to share with my male friends

My only advice is this

Don't treat them as they have came from different planet, these movies and stuff has messed up people's minds

See them just as a normal human being

More than anything just be happy and have certain stillness in you

It doesn't matter boy or girl, everyone will get attracted to positivity and peace

Don't go to extreme measures listening to random advice

If you want to meet strangers and actually make genuine connections

There are many communities in Bangalore who host events both paid and free ones

There is one called 'We play banglore' search in Instagram, founder is kannada so you can expect kannada people too as you wanted to learn

Probably go to meet ups around your domain like if you are a designer go to design meetups etc

In these places you will get a lot of common ground to talk to and make friends

Hope you get what wished for Brother

Happy Bangalore!

SparklyHamster
SparklyHamster
TCS12mo

Desperate guy🤣
Better option is start looking in church street🤣

GigglyUnicorn
GigglyUnicorn

As one of my telegite friend says - “Telugu accent is part of that charm”. It took time for him to move from “damn! Koi bhaav nai de raha“ to .. “ sorry bhai.. aaj date hai”- so am sure you will be okay - don’t run away from the dry spell. It’s there for a reason - someone else is getting dosa 🫢

CosmicMochi
CosmicMochi

Try your hand on hobbies that has a larger women ratio-reading, crocheting, bird watching...you get the drift. Attend these social activities and have conversations organically

SillyJellybean
SillyJellybean

Find events here, go participate and make friends

https://join.puttingscene.com

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