(26 M) Feels like there is no point of life anymore
I am unmarried 26M, SWE. Financially I am doing pretty good but a sudden tragedy hit me recently when my father passed away recently due to a silent cardiac arrest. My dad was diagnosed with congestive heart failure a few years back but he was healthy otherwise. Since his diagnosis, I was living with anticipatiory grief that anything can happen to him at anytime. In a way this was to prepare me for worse but now when it has happened, I am totally broken and lost in life. I took a WFH job to be close to my parents. So did not really have any serious relationships in a sizable amount of time. My father was my best friend and loosing suddenly him has made me all alone. His health was my primary worry for past few years and now life feels aimless. I do have suici**al thoughts but I am strong enough to know my responsibilities to my mom and I won't stupidly act on it. But all I see is a lonely purposeless life in front of me. I really love CS. I am truly a nerd and really have never lost focus while I am coding or studying something tech related. It is my recreation of sorts. But after my Dad's death, I can't even focus on it for long.
Would love to hear if anyone of you had faced a similar situation and what you would recommend for coping with such a loss of direction and fear of eternal loneliness.
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Take a 10-min AI interview to qualify for numerous real jobs auto-matched to your profile 🔑Don't worry, I know how you feel but this is not the end. Be strong, if you get these thoughts again, talk to friends. I know it's very difficult losing one of your parents. But your father will never want you to end your life.
Life is all about struggles and how you tackle it. I'm sure you'll overcome this. Just don't be alone for sometime... Whenever, you get thoughts like this, go for a walk, read a book, better read Bhagavad Gita. You'll know life is too short to think about the same thing and cry. You'll have to live your life and move on. Mediate, this will help you control your emotions....
Thanks but unfortunately I am not that religious. Rather, I am not a huge believer in rebirth/reincarnation cycle. Believing that death turns my most loved person in absolute nothingness forever is not making it any easy to digest. Fact that I will likely have to spend more time without him than I did with him scares me to the core.
Bro … Faced similar situation. Read Geetha… it ll give answers. Even I won’t worship much and won’t go to temples and all. But few words in that books will give you purpose and make you move on literally with everything.
Accept my deepest condolences 🙏
Time heals everything, surely, you will overcome from this
Myself too faced same thing when my elder brother died, he was like a very close friend to me, believe me just give some time all will be fine, stay strong!
Time heals everything, engage yourself, do cycling, running
These wounds can not be recoverd but with Time will be better for sure.
I can understand your situation, since I too lost my father in very young age. I would just suggest you that nothing can be permanent in your life. But yes sometimes very early you faced it.
Just remember your happy time with him, also make yourself the way he wanted you to be. And be support system of your family in absence of him.
Take care!
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Achha bura samay aata jata rehta h...hm aaj jitna rote h kl utna hasenge bhi...have patience, ye samay bhi beet jayega.
And if possible find a partner for yourself or get married.
Your mother need you more now, she lost her partner.
As a man you need to suck it up, try therepy if needed, hit gym, cry.
It's okay to take time for yourself. Take care of your mental health, career can wait (it does not mean you can resign). Do a little less work that's what I mean